They’re getting married, and your loved ones stand on the threshold of a new life together. They will have to lean on one another from now on, but your blessing can encourage each one, strengthen their love, and help their partnership to grow. Here are some of the most beautiful old blessings for new marriages we know.
May God be with you and bless you.
May you see your children’s children.
May you be poor in misfortunes
and rich in blessings.
May you know nothing but happiness
from this day forward.
May the light of friendship guide your paths together.
May the laughter of children grace the halls of your home.
May the joy of living for one another trip a smile from your lips,
A twinkle from your eye.
May the Spirit of Love find a dwelling place in your hearts.
May your mornings bring joy and your evenings bring peace.
May your troubles grow few as your blessings increase.
May the saddest day of your future
Be no worse than the happiest day of your past.
May your hands be forever clasped in friendship
And your hearts joined forever in love.
Your lives are very special,
God has touched you in many
May his blessings rest upon you
And fill all your coming days.
May the road rise to meet you
May the wind be always at your back
May the warm rays of sun fall upon your home
and may the hand of a friend always be near.
From the early Church Father Tertullian:
“Beautiful the marriage of Christians, two who are in hope, one in desire, one in the way of life they follow, one in the religion they practice. They are both servants of the same Master. Nothing divides them, either in flesh or in spirit. They are two in one flesh, and, where there is one flesh there is also one spirit. They pray together, they worship together; instructing one another, strengthening one another. Side by side they visit God’s church; side by side they face difficulties and persecution, share their consolations. They have no secrets from one another; they never bring sorrow to each other’s hearts. Unembarrassed they visit the sick and assist the needy. They give alms without anxiety. Psalms and hymns they sing. Hearing and seeing this, Christ rejoices. To such as these He gives His peace. Where there are two together, there also He is present and where He is, there evil is not.”
From the American Indian traditions:
May the fires of your love keep you happy and warm;
May the strength of your love keep you safe from all harm. May the light of your love guide your pathways together.
May the joy of your love keep you happy forever.
Now you will feel no rain, for each of you will be the shelter for each other. Now you will feel no cold, for each of you will be the warmth for the other. Now you are two persons, but there is only one life before. Go now to your dwelling place to enter into the days of your life together. And may your days be good and long upon the earth.
Treat yourselves and each other with respect, and remind yourselves often of what brought you together. Give the highest priority to the tenderness, gentleness and kindness that your connection deserves. When frustration, difficulty and fear assail your relationship – as they threaten all relationships at one time or another – remember to focus on what is right between you, not only the part which seems wrong. In this way, you can ride out the storms when clouds hide the face of the sun in your lives – remembering that even if you lose sight of it for a moment, the sun is still there. And if each of you takes responsibility for the quality of your life together, it will be marked by abundance and delight.
Not sure how to use your marriage blessing? Here are some ideas:
- Print the blessing on the ceremony programs, wedding invitations, or the wedding thank you cards.
- Have the officiant or someone who is special to the couple speak the blessing during the marriage ceremony.
- To the father of the bride: If your daughter’s young man asked for your blessing before he proposed, it will be especially meaningful if you bless them together, perhaps during the wedding ceremony or at the reception.
- A blessing makes a lovely toast at the rehearsal dinner or reception.
- If you are a guest, you can frame the blessing in a good frame and personalize it by adding the couple’s names and wedding date–either engraved on the frame or on the piece of paper that is framed. A friend of mine recently received a framed copy of the Tertullian marriage blessing (above) with the names and wedding date printed below it.
Have you ever experienced a marriage blessing? How would you use blessings in the weddings of your friends and family?